Breath work for better sex; is it real?

Breathing techniques have gained major popularity in the wellness sphere for its ability to reduce stress, promote emotional wellbeing and increase mindfulness. But it offers significant transformative power in our intimate lives promoting heightened pleasure, deeper connection and greater intimacy during sex. 

Breath work involves specific techniques that enhance and regulate the flow of oxygen and energy throughout the body. It varies from following simple breathing patterns to more complex techniques stemming from meditation, yoga or ancient tantric traditions. When intentional breathing techniques are practiced during sex it can help one be more present, aware and attuned to their partner. 

1. Deepens Intimacy and Connection - Synchronised breathing with one’s partner has been shown to enhance their emotional bond, trust, vulnerability and emotional safety which in turn makes for a more intimate experience.

1. Emotional Release - Breath work can help release stored emotions in the body such as fears, insecurities, past traumas. Through breath work one can release and allow for a more liberating sexual experience which will in turn lead to greater emotional intimacy, self awareness and connection during sex.

1. Prolonged Pleasure - For those suffering from premature ejaculation breath work can really be of help. Techniques known as the 4-7-8 breathing (in-hold-out) can help regulate the autonomic nervous system and manage arousal levels.

1. Enhances relaxation - Anxiety around sex is common due to the pressure to perform, body image issues or negative past experiences. Breath work can help alleviate the anxiety by activating the parasympathetic nervous system, calming the mind and relaxing the body.

1. Increases Arousal and Sensitivity - Deep breathing techniques increase physical sensations by increasing oxygen to the body and brain. This can make everything feel more intense and amplified. It can also help release the feel good hormones known as endorphins and oxytocin which can make the experience that more pleasurable. 

1. The 4-7-8 Technique - This method was created by Dr Andrew Weil and is a pranayama style breathing involving inhaling through the nose for the count of 4-holding the breath for 7 counts and exhaling through the mouth slowly for 8 counts. This technique allows the nervous system to calm down, manage arousal and prolong the sexual experience by controlling physical sensations.

1. Ujjayi Breath - This is a breathing method often used in Yoga and it involves breathing deeply through the nose while constricting the throat making a soft ocean like sound. This technique helps focus, relaxation, prolong pleasure and increase stamina. Practicing together can also lead to a meditative state leading to more intimacy and connection amongst partners.

1. Circular Breathing - For this Technique try to keep the inhale and exhale unbroken in a continuous cycle of breathing. This method increases energy flow and can amplify arousal creating a sense of anticipation and excitement amongst partners.

1. Breath Awareness Meditation - This method encourages the partners to spend a few minutes in breath awareness meditation before sexual activity. Begin by sitting comfortably facing each other with your eyes closed and focus on the natural rhythm of your breathing. Gradually aiming to sync the breaths together. This practice creates a deep sense of presence and prepares for a more connected and mindful sexual experience.

1. Tantric Breathing Exercise - Begin by sitting facing each other ideally sitting on each other's lap with legs wrapped around the other's waist. Ideally the base partner should have the most masculine grounding/giving energy whilst the one on the top should have a more receiving feminine energy. All you need to do is look at each other and your breathing will naturally sync to your partner's, releasing a deep sense of connection. If you want to spice things up a bit try swaying your hips from side to side to activate your sexual energy and get an incredible boost of vitality. 

1. Start Slowly - Begin by adding simple breathing techniques into moments of intimacy. Even just taking a few deep breaths together can greatly affect mood and connection.

1. Experiment - Not every technique will resonate with you or in the particular season you are in. Try different exercises to find what works best for you and your partner based on comfort level and preferences.

1. Communicate -  Keep communication open about your intentions, comfort levels and desires to create a more relaxed atmosphere to explore new methods.

1. Be Present - Be fully present to physical sensations and awareness by grounding yourself through breath work without letting your mind take over.

1. Be Patient - It may take time and practice for it to feel natural and comfortable. The goal is never perfection but exploration and connection. 

Breath work can have many benefits that go beyond the bedroom. It is a way to connect to self and can improve overall health, reduce stress, enhance emotion and promote self awareness.

Breath work in sex can be a powerful tool to enhance physical pleasure and connectedness and emotional intimacy. It is a holistic approach to a more connected experience with your partner, increasing awareness of your body and promoting relaxation leading to a more pleasurable sexual experience. Breath work is a practice that can enrich your sexual life whether you are looking to explore or enhance your current relationship.